Archives July 2020

You will die digging.

You won’t have enough energy or time to extract the precious liquid if you wait until you need it to start looking for the right place for the water well.

The right moment to start digging is when you don’t need it yet. This is true for back up plans, for savings and for relations.

You can’t expect to people going to your rescue if you only call them when you need them. You should nurture relationships when you are at your best. Then it is super easy to lend a hand. To help with no expectations. To create a safe net of resources that will be prone to help you when you need it.

You plant those trees today, even if you won’t see them bear fruit.

Chances are, unless you are into kenjutsu or fencing, that it will never happen. You will never face a swordsman.

Nevertheless, your brain is trying (and succeeding) to picture a complete hoarde of ninja-samurai-fremen out to get you. This false reality of ubiquitous clear and present danger it’s everybody’s worst nightmare and nemesis.

However, this is it. This our life or death situation. And it is happening each and every day, every hour of the day.

Your only chance at living a fulfilling and joyful life and maybe even some peace, is to tame the beast inside. That beast is no one else but your own biology.

Notice I am not blaming you. You are not your mind and you are not your body. The brain is designed like this in order to attain survival of the species…thousands of years ago.

Today it is responsible for all you perceive, feel, think and do. It creates your reality. So you better start training on the quest to beat him, to conquer your brain so it acts in your advantage and not against you.

Nature hates change but thrives in it.

When a caterpillar begin it’s transformation process inside her cocoon, the first new cells, those that will be a butterfly, are being killed by the caterpillar’s immune system. Until the number of butterfly outnumbers those of the caterpillar.

It is a never ending battle between homeostasis and evolution.

If you are struggling in your present thinking a possible future for yourself, be assured that it is alright. You could be in a cocoon phase. All that turmoil you feel inside yourself is the immune system called your present fighting the next you.

It’s hard to change. It is even painful. But life is all about mastering the infinite cycle of being and reinventing one self.

Happy birthday to me from my own cocoon. See you guys out there. Soaring. Flying. Being perfect for that period, until the next metamorphosis is required.

We wish we had our own Tyler to drive us out of our comfort and into the glory.

Happy news. He could. And he does. He lives in all of us. If we summon him.

The use of an Alterego that empower us is one of the most elegant, easy, fast and effective ways I have seen to give ourselves super powers.

I know, it sounds silly. It sounds even like a magic potion.

Well, try it. We all used lots of them when we were kids. Develop your own alterego, read or listen to Todd Herman. And see for yourself

Someone else and not me turned of my alarm clock in the morning, avoiding me to wake up and exercise and meditate.

Someone else who doesn’t like me took the piece of bread and nutella and took 2 bites out it before I realized the taste in my mouth.

Yes, he takes decisions for me and before me. He doesn’t care what I care. He just care about me being safe. Me not dying. Me passing my genes into the next generation.

But how about my dreams and hopes? What about my goals? My happiness?

Nope, my brain just doesn’t give a damn about it. That is why he takes the form of that nagging little voice telling me to take it easy, that I shouldn’t try to do huge things, that I must be average. Safe in numbers he says.

Now that you know it is nothing personal: It’s not you, it’s him. And he means good but he sucks at making you happy. That is why, from now on, your main goal should be to force him to learn what is really important: The greatest of dreams is what you both, together, shall seek.

How many times will you have left to hug your son? And visiting your parents? How about enrolling in a seminar?

It is a probabilistic exercise, but it changes the perspective on things.

Measuring the number of times you have left to do certain things, like Jessy Itzler suggests, and maybe that will modify the frequency or the quality of how you do them right now.

The formula is really simple: TN = NTY (AA – YA). Where TN is the Total Number of times left; NTY is Number of Times a Year; AA is the Average Age you will reach in life and YA is your age.

Now I’m sure you will give a different value to things.

Yes, you could screw up if you try.

And at least, you should know what the cost of trying and screwing is. Maybe you do.

But as important as that, you should know the cost of not even trying.

When you do, have in mind that most errors are mendable, you could fix almost anything.

And then, forge the habit that most counts: Get INTO ACTION.

First we would have to define what sustain is.

Sustain your nurturing needs? Sustain your family? Sustain your future? Sustain your houses and cars? Your vacations? Your trips to Vegas?

Once you define that number that will sustain you (and here it would be so super nice of your part if you think about future generations, the sustainability of the human race, an the capacity of the planet to provide…) then you just make a simple calculation to know the number of clients, e.g. money, that you will need to achieve that sustainability.

Here comes the most difficult part: to be comfortable with that decision. THIS will be the hard work.

Once you are comfortable with it, then it doesn’t matter how noisy the world is. The world you will live in, will be a radical one that the one you live right now.

You are the product. You are not the client.

You are being sold to someone else. They have taken your attention and sold it to the best bidder. They don’t give a damn if you lost your soul, your life, your way or simply put, your attention to yourself.

Social networks are that. They charge someone else to bring you to them. And that is it.

And yet, here we are, right? How could we turn things the other way?

A few reasons to go big:

• In this little space of the people (or organizations) that can give you 10M, there is so much less competition. There are higher standards, of course, but few less players will be in this court field.

• The right kind of people will feel attracted to the project. Those who feel they can make a contribution. The mediocre segment will nag, hate, be jealous. Of course you also has to keep an eye open for the weasels.

• There will be more focus and energy due to the release of the proper neurotransmitters inside the dopaminergic rewards system.

The Reticular Activating System will modify its filters and will align and act faster.

So you see, bigger is not necessarily more difficult.

One thing to have in mind. It is not the same to have a $10,000 idea and multiply it 1,000 times than having a 10M idea. It’s just not.